I came across our computer's internet history and discovered that my husband has been viewing one particular co-worker's pictures everyday in facebook.  He gave me access to his Facebook account (for reasons to be mentioned later). He also sent her a wall message that was very sweet (nothing salacious).  She posted that she had a cold and he replied he was sorry she felt sick, to take care of herself and to try a certain over the counter medicine for it.  He's been mentioning that co-worker many times before.  So I checked her profile out and that's when I saw his post.  When I mentioned I was going to view his facebook account (I don't have one of my own) to check out mutual friends I noticed he deleted the post he had on her wall.   

Back to the reason I have his facebook account information.  Several years ago when I was pregnant with our only child he accidentally left his work email open in our pc (he connects to his work from our home sometimes).  I noticed a few email messages between my husband and the wife of his bestfriend--let's call her Virgie.  While there was nothing wrong with the emails per so (I can't say it was flirty or anything), I found myself disturbed for the following reasons.  1.  We have a lot of mutual friends why were they emailing each other on a regular basis? 2.  Virgie is very attractive and a lot of men are attracted to her.  She also has a reputation of being a flirt and has been caught cheating on her husband at one time.

So I confronted him about it.  He said everything was innocent enough and he had no
problems stopping email communications with him.  A few months later I found out that they were still emailing each other.  Again the emails were not salacious but I was fuming mad that he broke his promise to me and would risk upsetting me while I was pregnant.  He couldn't give me a good reason why.  He again promised and so that I trust him again, he gave me access to all his email accounts which includes Facebook.   

Now I catch him "checking out" his co-worker out and to top it off, he also goes to view Virgie's pictures once in awhile.  He has since learned to delete his internet history and as of today, I do not know if he visits their web pictures.  Clearly he has a crush on his co-worker and our friend Virgie.    I haven't confronted him about any of this because I'm thinking it's not like he's having an actual affair.  It could definitely be worse, right?  I'm trying to just get over it but I am having the hardest time.  Can you help me just get over this--should I just get over it?