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Topic: What should I do?

My husband and I recently went on vacation to visit his friends/family and I had to come back earlier for work. He stayed to hangout with his best friend. I cannot stand him! (He's known for cheating on girlfriends and being a total womanizer) He doesn't like me because he is very needy and feels as though I "stole him away." As a result, I feel he does not respect our relationship and always tries to get my husband to do things he knows will upset me and create friction in our relationship. My husband knows we don't like each other and must literally hangout with us separately since we do not get along.

Since I left (It's been about a week) and my husband has been hanging out with his best friend, my husband has not called or e-mailed me. (He has a habit of doing this when he goes on trips and I told him that he needs to contact me. He promises he will but he never does).

So, I was upset over the fact that once again, he has failed to listen to my needs when I found out that he and his best friend went on a mini vacation to another country without even telling me (Mind you, my husband told me they were just going to hangout since his friend did not have a lot of money).

Should I be mad that he did not call or e-mail me while he was on vacation even though I told him it upsets me when he does that and he promised he would make an effort in the future? Should I be mad that he lied what he exactly was doing on his vacation? Should I be mad he did not even tell me about the mini-vacation? Should I even stay? What should I do to make him break these habits?

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Re: What should I do?

I was married for 18 yrs and now i have been dating this guy for 3 yrs. In my honest opinion, you have every right to be upset. I would be furious! I'm sorry unless your kidnapped or deathly ill in the hospital is there no reason for you not to call your spouse! It shouldn't even be an effort for him it should come naturally! I feel that when someone lies it's because they don't want you to know the truth! Of course!!! I have caught my boyfriend in some lies and it makes me wonder what other things they lie about! Keep your guard up, do you think he lies about other things? How long have you been married?

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Re: What should I do?

We've been married for 3 years but together a total of 7 years. I'm not sure if it's the seven year itch...

The only time he tends to lie is when he says he will do something but hasn't done it because he procrastinates.

I just don't know what to do when he comes home. Should I stay at a hotel for a few days and not tell him? Should I confront him? If so, what should I do/say?

I don't know but I'm getting very tired of him going on trips without me and not calling, especially since I told him I don't like it and he promised he wouldn't do that anymore. Me

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Re: What should I do?

I'm gonna recommend a book that i recently read: Why men love Bitches.  It not a bitch in a bad way, it's a woman who is strong, independent, and makes men respect her. It teaches you how to react to situations just like the one your in. You need to change your attitude and actions. When he see's this, he will change. He doesn't change because he knows that you will be around no matter what. After reading this book, i changed completely and now my ex, is begging me back! i am going to give him a second chance, but this time, on my conditions. Men react to actions and not words, when we nag or try to even talk to them they tune us out. Be strong, pray for guidance, think positive and don't give in just because you don't want to argue. MAKE him RESPECT you. He will love you more for that!