• Registered: 2008-02-13
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Topic: Cheated on

I am so hurt. My boyfriend of over 2 years just cheated on me while he was out of state. We had been having some problems with communicating. He had thought I was cheating on him( I would never) and I felt used and unappreciated. He didn't tell me right away and when he did, he didn't tell me all of it. I had to drag it out of him. He said he was going to break it off with me, but when he came home and looked at me .....he couldn't do it. He is saying that this has made him realize he loves me and doesn't want to loose me. I love him so much, and have from the beginning. He took my 2 children, from a previous marriage, as his own and we have had a baby girl of our own. Since he told me he has been acting like he is sorry and wants to fix it. He is trying tofind things for us to do together. He tells me he is sorry and holds me every time I start to cry from the pain. Every time he kisses me I think of him kissing "her".  Will the pain go away? and will I ever be able to trust him again? I want to trust him.

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  • From: Nowhere
  • Registered: 2008-01-23
  • Posts: 22

Re: Cheated on

hey ive been through that always thinking of the other grl...it made me sick to touch him...but according to him we werent together so it wasnt so bad but i still felt as if he wan mine-i became angry and mean and eventually i pushed him away - if u are willing to try u need to try to talk...about eevrything - and really put one hell of a effort-and nt only that......u could try couples counseling...and if this isnt really going to work out then...say bye for now...

  • From: new jersey
  • Registered: 2008-01-06
  • Posts: 181

Re: Cheated on

move on hun, You see how disgusted you feel It's almost excuse the pun, someone wearing your underware and gives them back with out washing them. Once a cheater always a cheater

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  • Registered: 2008-03-29
  • Posts: 9

Re: Cheated on

As a love loser myself, I went through a relationship where I was cheated on. I forgave him, and everything was great for about a year. He felt so guilty for what he had done, he was the single most romantic guy I had ever known. There was this feeling inside that made it hard for me to be physical with him, as I felt used every time we would try to. In the end, he ended up cheating on me again because this time, he said, it didnt feel like we were connecting sexually, and he thought that I wasnt interested in him anymore. It wasnt that I didnt love him anymore, that feeling just never goes away, and the single hardest thing to do in life, is stay with someone who cheated on you. I wish you the best of luck as maybe in hopeful dreams it will work out. If you really are deadset on staying with him, and honestly believe that he will never do it again, take my advice and see a counselor yourself, they may be the only ones who can help you get over this physical feeling of inadequacy.

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  • Registered: 2008-03-30
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Re: Cheated on

i really, really believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. 

at least for THAT relationship, they will always be a cheater.   you can be a cheater with one relationship, then the next one, you never cheat, etc.  but as for that SAME, tainted relationship, they will always be a cheater.

the truth hurts, but its the TRUTH. 

(when in doubt, you're probably RIGHT! so run like hell and never look back, i say!)

hope this helps

  • From: new jersey
  • Registered: 2008-01-06
  • Posts: 181

Re: Cheated on

Listen to the advice. It hurts, but you will find some one else. Even if he never does it again. You can never get it out of your mind. You see you can never be intimate because he took that away from you

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  • jpp
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  • Registered: 2008-11-24
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Re: Cheated on

As a guy, I can tell you that I have only cheated on someone that I didn't care about and that if I really did love someone, no matter what happened EVER I wouldn't cheat on them, no excuses, E - V - E - R. Period. Just wouldn't. Also, as someone whose been cheated on, I can also tell you that nothing can or will ever be the same. Even if it does "work out," it's always in the back of your mind and it should be. The girl that cheated on me was unbelievably persistent and 2 years later still is. She's called me a million times, emailed, facebook messaged, everything, and even though I never respond keeps it up. She cheated on me with her ex and after I found out about it, I stopped talking to her for a while. And when we finally got back together she did it over and over again behind my back and lied about it over and over again. Cheaters can change but only with the right person in a new relationship. Trust me when I tell you he'll do it again. When I found out I was really devastated but obviously that was enough and it should be for you. You won't take my advice because you want it to work, but you should.

The only way to get over this fully is to find someone who truly loves you and wouldn't cheat on you. Trust me, being with someone you trust, who loves you for you and is a good person is so so so much more fulfilling and will literally blow you away. Thankfully, right near the end I met someone else who changed the way I felt about my ex. I knew it was real not just a replacement because I honestly couldn't stop thinking about the new girl when I was with my ex and the day I realized it was one of the most intensely joyful moments of my life. Of course, you still have to meet someone new and who is amazing enough to turn you around, but when you do I promise you that you'll be so grateful and all the pain your guy put you through will make it all the sweeter.