I have been separated from my husband for 3 years.  We are working on the divorce but put it off for money reasons and we get along so there is no fighting.  I have not dated at all but didn't want to.  About 3 months ago, I started talking to a man whose children go to school with my daughter.  He has been an aquaintance for years.  His wife left him 9 months ago, so 6 months when we started talking.  We talk sometimes but mostly text constantly.  Sometimes for hours on end.  He is very flirty and discusses going out and doing things but we haven't.  At first he did tell me that he was really angry with her and had to be careful because he was afraid of her.  I just assumed he didn't want to go out in public in fear that she may find out and try to screw him in the divorce.  That was fine but I often ask him to come over when I don't have my daughter and every time I do that he clams up and we don't talk for about a week.  This has happened a few times now. I finally break down and say I'm sorry for asking you to do something b/c I know you are worried about your wife but I miss talking to you and still want to be friends.  He usually says he just needs to be careful and then we talk like normal again.  I haven't talked to him for a few days now b/c of asking him to do something.  I really like him and I know deep down that he isn't ready.  Do I just leave him alone or keep calling and texting even if he doesn't always respond.  He is the type if he is busy he won't answer a call or text and won't even do it later on.  For example if I text how is your day but he is busy he won't ever respond to that.  But I could call or text later or the next day and he responds.  Also, I usually initiate our talks but I didn't think he minded.  Any suggestions?