I have never been in a relationship that has made it past the "honeymoon phase". Right now i have been in a relationship with this guy for three months and things are starting to die down a bit. Me and my bf first started just hooking up and neither of us intended for it to be any more than that.... but somehow things just got more complicated as time went by. He broke up with his girlfriend a month before we got together and he has hooked up with a few people before. He said he was in love with his ex and although he was over it the experience still changed him a lot and made him more hesitant to get into another relationship that has an end date ( I am leaving the country in 5 months). I love the beginning stage of a relationship where u just cant wait to see each other and want to spend all your time together, but after a month and a half i started asking him what exactly we were doing since we clearly were no longer just hook up buddies. He told me he likes me but isnt ready to get into a relationship and he doesnt want to like me so much since i am leaving and he knows that he will if we r in a relationship.

but during winter break we didnt see each other for three weeks but we kept in touch through facebook skype and txt message. He missed me a lot during those weeks and when we got back, he askedme to go out with him officially. We've been official for a month now but for the past two weeks i feel as if he is spending most of his time getting drunk with his friends, and i feel a bit neglected because i feel like we spent more time together when we were NOT in a relationship., I told him about it and he said he barely spent any time with his friends before break because we were together all the time and now he wants things to be more balanced. but since i have never really been in a long term relationship i dont know if my feelings of being neglected is just us getting more comfortable w each other and being "over" that honeymoon phase and actually are in a proper relationship. or the relationship is dying. Also another issue is that i keep on getting jealous of him hanging out with one of his girl friends, i know he finds her attractive but i also know he is not itnerested in her in that way, and he would never cheat on me, but i still cant help feeling uncomfortable with the idea of them even hanging out together. im not really sure why i am being jealous is it that i am a bit confused about waht stage our relationship is in right now which lead me to feel insecure about the relationship in general ?

I hope someone who has been in a long term relationship can help answer some of these questions.

My last question is, the issue of me leaving has never been mentioned and is kind of a prohibited topic, do you think it would be better for us to just get it out in the open and talk about it or should we just enjoy what we have now and not think about it?

sorry for just a long post please help thank you!