Hello.  I am a pretty good looking guy. I am 24 years old, I own and operate my own restaurant, I own my own house, I have a nice up-to-date car and I have a great style of dress. Whenever I go out I get looks everywhere I go. I notice when women are talking about me or looking at me from a distance. In my town, the chances of a woman coming up and hitting on you like a guy normally would is slim to none, but it does happen alot with me. The only problem is that when it does happen she's usually not my type when it comes to the first attraction. I admit I am a little picky when it comes to looks. My last few girlfriends were very good looking and got lots of attention. I'm not conceited, nor do I act cocky in any way, but I do know that I am very attractive. I am very confident in every aspect of my life, but I do admit I need help with women. I just don't know where to start.

Lots of women hit on me, give me looks, smile and wave at me, but none my type. What I need help with is making the moves on the women who are attractive to me. I grew up being very shy. I am generally a quiet person who likes to keep to himself. My job demands that I am there alot because I am the boss of 12 employees. My job helps me in many ways because I have to be more open to my employees and be able to talk to customers and have conversations with them. This is something I definitely don't normally do outside of work. I normally don't do much besides work. I go out to the bars or whatever with friends maybe once a week. And when I am out drinking my interactions with women are a lot smoother due to the fact that maybe I'm drunk and so is she. I have one girl I seldomly talk to and have relations with every once in a while, but let's just say I lowered my standards just a little bit with her because I admit, I've become just a little desperate due to my lack of interactions with women. I think the problem is that since I am shy I don't know what to say. I don't know how to initiate the conversation. Or maybe its my fear of rejection? Every day goes by when I serve that girl food and the most I can say is 'If there is anything else that you may need today let (name) know, he/she will be your server today. Enjoy your lunch/dinner.' and then I smile and walk away, and pitifully that is it. Not saying I want to hit on my customers, but getting it out there that that is the only thing every beautiful girl in town has ever heard from me. What more do I need? How can I relate my everyday successes to an every day success with the women I want?

Last edited by haoleflip (2009-10-19 4:39AM)