• Registered: 2009-07-27
  • Posts: 3

Topic: am i doing the right thing?

my boyfriend of 6months started hitting me... did i do the right thing by breaking up with him? and second i just recently found out im pregnant... and i haven't told him... is that the smart move or am i in the wrong? i know he has a right as the father to know but im scared for my unborn child and my self... he already has called me over 80 times and we just broke up last night... he keeps crying and telling me he loves me and he never ment to hurt me... that he made a mistake and im over reacting. i dont know what to do. i've always wanted my child to have a mother and a father... so should i gve him another chance?

Last edited by greeneyed_irishwitch (2009-07-27 6:10PM)

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  • Registered: 2009-07-25
  • Posts: 9

Re: am i doing the right thing?

Hitting is something serious!!!! I would be very concerned about your baby!!!!! Would he agree to some sort of help? Has he had this behavior with anyone else? I know from experience.... An old boyfriend of mine did the same thing.... i finally left after being abused ----hit several times. He would cry and say sorry. I would take him back and he would do it again. I would be very worried about your unborn child and the unborn babies safety at this point. Hope this helps. I am sorry to see someone be put in such a situation.

  • Registered: 2009-07-27
  • Posts: 3

Re: am i doing the right thing?

it turns out im not the first girl he has gotten abusive with... his ex confronted me and told me how he beat her up... he is samoan and a lot bigger then me and i dont know what to do... i've been in a abusive relationship before but a baby was never involved and so its a whole nother ballpark...

  • Registered: 2009-07-25
  • Posts: 9

Re: am i doing the right thing?

I think I would leave before you are hurt anymore or that unborn child is hurt. I would only allow him to stay if he gets help!!!!

  • From: Chicago, IL
  • Registered: 2008-03-24
  • Posts: 95

Re: am i doing the right thing?

You did the right thing by breaking up with him. My step father was the same way with my mother and she didn't leave, even when he had abused her while she was pregant. Thank God my mom didnt lose the baby. If he hit you once, he is most likely to hit you again. Think of your child's well being. Having no father in his/her life is better than having an abuser as a father.

~I'm such a fool for love....~