thats a little hard to deal with.. there are two things that bring people together.. if you honestly love someone or u could be totally infatuated with them... to be infatuated u don't need to love the person but u think you love the person because of how close u and that one person had become.. she could love you just like she said but shes just afraid to leave someone that she has been with for a long time... its the fact that if things didnt go good with you guys then she will feel like she lost someone she cared about .. for what ?? yet things might go great with u guys.. u just need to honeslty sit down with her and talk to her about this.. maybe help her to think about what to say to him.. she needs to pick u or him.. i knwo its hard but u cant be sitting here in love with someone when there is someone else in her life..

i actually agree with both of these ladies because she is kinda taking advantage of you. How can she live with herslef knowing that she is hurting two people at the same time. I think it shows a lot about her character that she claimed to have a boyfriend and be "in-love" yet she was sleeping with you in the first place. Whether or not she developed feelings for you is irrelevant because of this. And you can't just let her string you along and put your feelings on hold until she decides what's best for her life. what about yours? You need to make her give you a choice because she seems like a person who is only thinking about her feelings and no one else's which is flat out inconsiderate in my opinion unless you are just letting her do this to you. In that case, you should think about yourself and dont keep this girlas your number one priority. i say shop around for someone else especially since you dont have a problem meeting girls. There will be another one soon. Move on and if she's sleeping with other people while she's with this other guys her heart is not all the way into him. So if its meant to be then she'll come around again without him.