I need help. I'm a newlywed of 7 months, and my relationship is almost perfect. My wife who is 10 years younger than me, (34-24) is still going out to the bar almost every weekend. I work a 2pm to 10pm swing shift, with an hour commute one way. So, I don't get home until 11pm or so. Sometimes she comes home at around midnight. Most times she'll be home around 2am-3am. She usually goes to the local country bar where we know the owners, and most of the staff. So, if a problem arises, there will be someone there to help I guess. The place hold over 700 people though, and it's packed on the weekends. I have talked, and talked, and talked some more until I'm blue in the face to her about this. I am all for a girls night out every now and then, and I believe that's healthy. But, if I'm working, she's out. I have tried to help her find a hobby, but too no avail. Infidelity is not so much of a concern as safety. I worry about drunk drivers, drunk guys, DUI's, and that kind of thing, although my wife is a head turner, and gets lots of attention from the opposite sex, I don't think she has it in her to cheat. Plus, by knowing several people there, she would have a hard time hiding it anyway. I'm not telling her, or asking her to stop totally, I'm asking her to slow down a little. I believe that a night out at a bar should involve both of us together. I'm always invited, and she has been very honest as to where she is, and who she's with, so I have no reason not to trust her. It's other people I don't trust. After working all day, the last thing I want to do is stay out till all hours of the morning at a bar. I like to watch a good band play as much as anybody, but as a law enforcement officer, I just can't be hanging out in the bar too much. It just looks bad, plus it's not responsible for me to do so. We all do stupid things when we're drinking. I just don't think it's right for my wife to be walking in our front door at 3 in the morning, half drunk. She says she goes to relax, and that's where her friends go, so she follows them out there. There has been emails from ex boyfriends showing up also, and even though they are innocent enough, they may be fooling her, but not me! What is acceptable, and what isn't I guess is my question. I know every relationship has it's different boundries, but what do you guys think? Talking does no good, she says that she is free do go where ever she pleases just like I am. I'm not her dad, and I need to stop trying to control her. Help!