• Registered: 2008-07-02
  • Posts: 9

Topic: He just wants to be friends

So I've been seeing this guy for 3 months we started as friends with benefits since either of us wanted to jump into a relationship right away. When we hang out we have the best time and talk about everything. Last week he tells me that he sees me more as a friend then a potential girlfriend, needless to say I am very hurt since I start to form real serious feeling for him. He told me that he loves hanging out with me and that he can tell me anything. On time while we were just laying around he tells me that I am very patient with him and that most girls would not respond the way I did. So I guess I just don't know what to think since everything he said to me seemed to show that we were on the same page and heading toward a relationship.

What I was wondering is if there is still a chance that something could happen if I wait and just be his friend or is it a lost cause and should I accept the friendship and move on?!

If something is unclear I will answer any questions I just need a different opinion about the situation.

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  • Registered: 2008-03-07
  • Posts: 43

Re: He just wants to be friends

it seems that he doesnt want a relationship right now but maybe later on he will and if he likes you then it could be with you. so i say be patient and maybe some good things will come from you waiting

  • Registered: 2009-03-24
  • Posts: 14

Re: He just wants to be friends

I think the best thing to do is to stop having sex with him. Why should he get to be friends with sex when you want friends with love.  It seems to me that you are selling yourself short.  Sex makes it hard to think clearly and be objective. Don't have sex with him unless he has a change of heart. Sex will not win him over. It never does. Put your heart back into your chest and think friendship only when you see him. If you can't do that. Take a break.

  • Registered: 2009-03-31
  • Posts: 8

Re: He just wants to be friends

Typically, men place women in categories from basically the moment you meet them: friend, hookup girl, and potential girlfriend.  These categories really don't change.  If he tells you that he does not see you as a girlfriend, that's his way of telling you that he will never see you as a girlfriend.  I recommend finding someone else.

  • Registered: 2007-01-23
  • Posts: 13

Re: He just wants to be friends

Well your issue is a little similar to mine except before anything happened he told me that if he was looking for a girlfriend, that I would the one. He has a lot going on, which I know for a fact and he didn't want to cause any hardship. We are the best of friends and have our alone time and fun. That wasnt what I wanted to hear, BUT I respected him a lot for that especially since nothing physical happened. I know your feelings were hurt when he didnt see you as a girlfriend. So to protect your feelings, I suggest that you stop having sex with him. Since it's just friendship thing, then he shouldn't have those kind of benefits. Be friends or find someone else.