• Registered: 2009-03-11
  • Posts: 1

Topic: help

I need some options, my husband is very out going and has a big heart. We both belong to a local fire dept as volunteers. For the last 10months, I have not been running call, do to the kids and thier activites. There is a lady that joined and is very quiet, well my husband befriended her. She was having so problems and opened up to my husband. They formed a friendship of texting and phone call on his cell. I have ask to meet her on serval accounts, but she has always back out for one reason or another. Well I had enough, I asked him break all ties with her unless she was willing to met me. He said that he would handle it. So I assumed he did. A few weeks ago I found out that he didnt. So I decided to email her with a really nice friendly woman to woman letter. She responded with that she understood. Even gave me her phone number to call. Well he found out about what I did. omg! I got in doodoo. Well last night was a meeting, she was there and i wasnot. The chef and her were talking, she mention to him that  the reason she dont run calls is because of me, she dont know what i would do. They then asked my husband to join this conversation and he said that he handled it. Now just a reminder I emailed her less then a week ago. My husband has treathen to leave me if I dont stop this.  AM I WRONG ABOUT HOW I FEEL.

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  • Registered: 2009-03-11
  • Posts: 3

Re: help

Wow rffitzferald...this does not sound good...I had this happen to me and found out that the more I pushed it the more 'they' became secret about it...was there anything going on????well yes it was emotional but soon they acted on that and I was the one left looking stupid out in the cold...Your husband shouldnt give threats unless hes willing to back them up with actions, however if you call him on it he may just leave and then she will have an open field...if it was me and I could do it all over again I would try and its very hard to just let it go, start attending meetings and running call, (I worked for an ambulance service for 17 years) find an on call sitter that will come and get her a pay by cell phone for that use only...the more you make yourself available around your husband the more this woman will back off...its true you should keep your friends close and your enemies even closer but I really wouldnt befriend this woman, a polite hi is fine...I know this sounds awful but you have the right to protect yourself and children and I would be checkin his text messages when hes phone is available to view, this will help you protect yourself...I know many will say thats wrong...but is it? No hes given you enuf proof for you to be suspicious and you have a right as his wife to know whats on the up and up...I am so sorry you are dealing with this...I am going thru a breakup now and its HARD...even though my heart screams love my HEAD knows its not gonna change....Good luck to you for real....