• Registered: 2008-09-24
  • Posts: 2

Topic: So hurt

Ok, so this is complicated but I really need help.  I was dating a wonderful man long distance for 18 months when he proposed.  I said yes and agreed to move myself and my two children to his small hometown 700 miles away from where I had lived my entire life.  I quit my job, gave up my home, sold my stuff and here I am.  Now I'm a full time student with no money of my own, he supports us financially.  So here is where it is hard.  I am very much in love with this man.  My children love him too.  But for the last 2 months he has been talking extensively with another woman (who lives 5 hrs away! maybe?)  he texts her all the time and is on the phone with her all day.  He says they are not sleeping together, but I am sure that he wants to if they have not already.  I found out about a month ago.  I knew something was wrong so I checked the cell phone bill and his texts.  I confronted him and he said they are just friends and that he just needed someone to talk to.  Since then he has been so strange.  I never know what to expect from him from day to day.  One day he will be very loving and another day he will be very distant and closed to me.  I asked him to stop talking to her so we could work on us and he said I shouldn't even ask him to do that.  I don't want to leave him because I love him and he says he loves me, we are both hurting so much and now the kids hurt to.  How do I get him to stop talking to her?

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  • Registered: 2008-12-25
  • Posts: 10

Re: So hurt

Wow.Sence when do men think that them having secret phone calls and texts with other women is cool or even right.Look at the big picture.He has hurt everyone... You, him your kids.If he can't respect your feelings and your children are suffering then it's time to say goodbye.I think in any relationship that children should come first.It will hurt them worse and in the long run if he continues to disrespect you.How do you know that he wont do this when you are married.I personaly think it's cheating if he has to hide or feel bad for hurting you over talking to some other woman.If you have friends, family,or even a ex co-worker that you know real well. Call them and ask for help to move. Maybe get your old job back.Tell them that you don't have many choices you want to help your kids.You and them matter.Your happyness matters more because it effects your children most when they see you argue or hurt.You must know that what you do they learn to do.Would you want your kids in the same relationship.Be your own best friend be strong do what you need to do.Soon.Best of luck, let me know how you do.